The Importance of Time

Growing up in a household free of any strict religious commitments, I have always considered myself a blank slate. Like the proverbial field of dreams, if I found a religion or philosophy that was right for me, then my belief in that system would follow.

Until a few years ago, I was like Teflon. While several were of interest (like Kabbalah), there was always a facet that was too rigid or an interpretation that did not align with my beliefs. It wasn't until I was having a conversation with a colleague and good friend about circumstances, dreams and our realities that I was introduced to Metaphysics. Finally, I felt like Cinderella. It fit.

Because Metaphysics explains that time is not linear, I am often amused when we talk about the passage of time, especially in terms of healing old wounds or surpassing an obstacle. The idea is that the more time passes, the further we are from a situation, and therefore that incident in our past means less. For instance, it was emotionally difficult to deal with Mike's ex-wife being in our lives when our relationship was so new. But now, two years later, it's much less painful.

Most of us attribute that to the passage of time. But if time is not linear, and I don't believe it is, then that argument holds no weight whatsoever.

Rather, if you believe in the principles of metaphysics and the projection and acceptance of energy, you come to understand why for some of us time seems to 'stand still' and for others time heals our wounds.

Now, I sincerely visualize a positive interaction with Mike's ex. In the first several months, human nature took the best of me and that was not the case. I was always pleasant enough, but would let her words and actions affect me and I pictured a life of constant tension and fighting with this person. And I felt resentment. I didn't ask for her to be in my life, so I felt entitled to my bitterness while attempting a positive front. Guess what resulted? A very topsy-turvy environment where some days we got along and other days we were all engaged in what can only be described as emotional combat. Hence, the "painful" stage of the relationship.

And yes, time passed. But the passage of time could have kept our situation status quo. It wasn't until I/we made a conscience effort, deciding that in order to change our circumstance we needed to change the kind of energy we contributed to the relationship, that the negativity ended. The painful period of time where each interaction was nasty and bitter existed not because it was "early" in our overall relationship. It was nasty and bitter because all of our energy focused on talking about and thinking about the nasty and awful things that were done to us or said to us every day or every week. "Can you believe she did this? Oh wait till I tell you what she did now..." Focusing on the negative kept bringing more negative interactions. That huge waste of energy is no longer part of my life.

And this is not something new I learned. I have known this "rule" for as long as I've researched Metaphysics. The "rule" or acknowledgment is that you cannot ever change another person. The only thing you do have any control over, the only thing you can change, is your reaction to that person. It's hard to see through the fog of human emotion and come out the other side at times. We all get dragged into our own egos now and then. But for me once I I have that minor epiphany, it's like I open a passageway and positive experiences flow again. When you're stuck in the negative, you bring more negative consequences your way.

So it is not the passage of time that makes us all calmer, smarter, more rational human beings. It's learning to overcome what happened in that particular slice of time. Since time is not linear, then this can't possibly be the only reality that exists in this expansive universe of ours. The people in our lives are there for a reason. Our interaction with them today may be affecting our experience in another place in time on another level.

So for those who quaintly believe time heals all wounds, realistically it's more likely due to an actual change of behavior. And while that behavior does occur over time, time itself is not the magic cure to ending our personal suffering.

And for those who feel stuck in a certain place in time, they are likely bringing the energy that breeds negative interactions right to them by focusing on the lack of, blocking the pathway and essentially shutting the door on positive energy and abundance.